BUDAPEST, Hungary (AP) 鈥 A year ago, Trey Hardee found himself alone in a hotel room, hitting rock bottom.
Struggling to cope with the realities of life in the aftermath of a successful track career, the father of three, a two-time world champion and decathlon, was thinking about ending his life.
鈥淚 read my journal entry from that night,鈥 the 39-year-old told The Associated Press in phone interviews this summer from Austin, Texas, where he lives. 鈥淚 don鈥檛 know who that was."
His darkest moment came in July 2022 at last year's world championships in Oregon, as he was gearing up for another day in his role as a TV analyst. At this year's world championships, which open Saturday in Hungary, Hardee will again be behind the microphone, but much more at peace, and hoping his story might serve as a cautionary tale for the hundreds of athletes who struggle with mental health.
鈥淚 went and sought out counseling and figured out a way to mature in that relationship I had with it," he said of his 14-year competitive decathlon career that ended in 2017.
Hardee鈥檚 story isn鈥檛 unfamiliar to world-class athletes who retire. Often, they don鈥檛 know what to do next. In Hardee鈥檚 case, those questions were exacerbated by something he didn鈥檛 realize in the days, weeks and even years after his retirement became official: In his rush to move onto 鈥渘ormal life,鈥 he鈥檇 forgotten to give his career the fitting sendoff it deserved.
鈥淚 never grieved the loss of it, in the same way that you might grieve the loss of a loved one,鈥 Hardee said. 鈥淲ithout that process, without doing any of that, it was like a wound and a disease that just went untreated for me for five years. I spent the entirety of my third, fourth, fifth year after retirement really struggling and really feeling ashamed and not knowing why. I was ashamed of being ashamed.鈥
Telling the world about such a thing, even years after the fact, is a relatively new phenomena among elite athletes. For decades, so many feared that revealing any misgivings about their mental well-being could be perceived as a sign of weakness 鈥 to opponents, to coaches, to people who made decisions about who goes on Olympic teams.
The COVID-19 pandemic and the chaos it wrought in many Olympic athletes鈥 lives played a big role in shifting that dynamic. , and are among the high-profile athletes whose paths have been fundamentally altered because of mental health. All have been unafraid to acknowledge their reality.
鈥淚t's OK to not be OK,鈥 was the and others after the gymnast shockingly withdrew from the team all-around at the Tokyo Olympics two years ago.
Hardee said the recent death of Olympic gold medalist Tori Bowie hit especially hard. had a history of mental-health issues 鈥 her bipolar disorder was listed on her autopsy report. Hardee knew Bowie from being on the same teams and used to talk to her at photo shoots.
鈥淚t鈥檚 just a heavy, heavy sadness,鈥 Hardee said.
Jess Bartley, the director of mental health for the U.S. Olympic and Paralympic Committee, said despite some significant shifts in the public's attitude, there's still "tremendous stigma" attached to mental health.
She said helping athletes navigate retirement, both before and after they hang it up, is among the most important missions her department tackles.
鈥淭here鈥檚 a lot of information and research coming out around the fact that, in the back of your mind, you might actually be worried about鈥 retirement, she said. 鈥淪o why would you not think about retiring? Why would you not think about how your skills are transferable鈥 once you retire?
In his early 30s and with one child 鈥 , would go on to have two more kids 鈥 Hardee thought he was set for success after his track career ended.
He found new roles and new purposes 鈥 as a family man, a track commentator for NBC and a high-performance trainer. He felt he had turned the page so effortlessly.
Maybe too effortlessly.
Hardee concedes he struggled to voice his concerns. It was difficult to let anyone in 鈥 not his wife, who could have offered her own insights as a retired world-class pole vaulter, or his friends, some of whom also forged similar career paths as elite athletes.
Hardee said that in retirement he didn't utilize any of the mental-health services that have become increasingly available through the U.S. Olympic and Paralympic Committee and USA Track and Field, both of which played a role in his training over the years.
鈥淵ou don鈥檛 know what you don鈥檛 know,鈥 he said of the benefits of the later counseling he underwent.
鈥淵ou can plan and plan and plan, but unless you鈥檝e been talking to a professional and you鈥檝e been really working just on yourself 鈥 and this isn鈥檛 about a job, this isn鈥檛 about having a fallback plan, this isn鈥檛 about a safety net. This is about your soul and your consciousness.鈥
Now, a year after his darkest moment, things look and feel different around the Hardee household.
Some of the pictures and memorabilia that had been stashed away in closets or dusty corners, lest they bring up memories of the career he was trying to leave behind, are re-emerging. One of his favorite pictures 鈥 of him throwing a discus 鈥 now has a prime spot near the piano.
To one of the world鈥檚 most finely tuned athletes, a man who had to master not one, but 10 different events to become a two-time world champion, the simple act of placing some memories of his career back into the foreground represented one of his most consequential breakthroughs.
鈥淚t took a while but I got back on my feet,鈥 said Hardee, who also opened up about titled 鈥淟ife Beyond The Game鈥 with former NFL offensive lineman Joe Hawley.
鈥淎nd then once I was on my feet I regained my balance. And then once I regained my balance, I started looking up. And after I started looking up, I started to climb out. I鈥檓 at a place right now where my head is above the edge of the well or the cave and I鈥檓 breathing fresh air again."
鈥淚 can see the sun,鈥 he said. 鈥淚 can see life.鈥
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